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January
2000

9. So Now

I'm reading this book called The Promise of Winter. It's a good, easy read because it's in short sections with lots of very cool, in fact chilly, black and white photos with snow in every one. I like books with pictures. The text by Martin Marty says:

The searcher of her heart recognizes that on any day, maybe this day, memories of wrongs done and stabbings of guilt can paralyze: "O God, you know my folly; the wrongs I have done are not hidden from you." Yet her cry need not be the last word. The crier, in danger of being swept along, remembers the one hand that reaches, and responds: "In the abundance of your steadfast love, answer me... rescue me... from the deep waters."

(Yeah, it's a religious book, a book of brief meditations on passages from the Psalms. And that makes it not such an easy read. Oh, the writing is done well and all - it's just that it is so-called "spiritual" writing, a lable that has always bugged me because work in that genre is too squishy and vapidly "christian", lacking a certain necessary grit. But Marty is a respected teacher, a smart guy, so I'm listening. His meditations here are mini-essays about, as his sub-title says "Quickening the Spirit on Ordinary Days and in Fallow Seasons." They make good psychological sense and good spiritual sense. For me, those two things have to run together - can't have one without the other.)

This is all about my previous entry and the feelings I've been having around Terry's death - which feelings are not primarily about Terry but about myself. I received some helpful, if not coddling, response from friends. One usefully suggested that I stop beating myself up for things that everyone does. I guess I have a tendency to do that...and I hate when I do that, but I don't always know what it is that everyone does because there are things that we all do which we never talk about. So in that entry I suppose I was talking about it. Right after posting that entry I had occasion to stumble onto William Blake's aphorism: "Shame is Pride's cloak." It struck me that by feeling and then expressing my shame, I was also in some perverse way boasting of it, proud of it? Well, this kind of thinking creates an impossible mess. Should I be ashamed of my shame because it's really pride and then tell you all about it in order to feel more shamefully proud or proudly shameful? Yikes. I need to get out more often.

Which I did last night. I chugged off to Rivertree to see The Talented Mr. Ripley which may not have been the best choice for my current mood, but which was a good movie for many reasons. I don't mind going to movies by myself, especially when I really want to see that particular movie, but when I look around I see that there are very few singletons in theaters. We are, I suppose, a suspect lot - as unattached figures often are. Question marks. Tom Ripley is a question mark...even unto himself.

Yesterday morning, Saturday, I proctored the entrance exam for a roomful of eighth graders. They were a pleasant group and I started memorizing some faces for future reference when they show up in my classes next year, especially the ones who seemed to be struggling with the test. There is a big hot discussion occuring among English teachers on the NCTE list serve around the issue of standardized tests. They say that in public schools these tests are being used to negative ends for apparently nefarious purposes. I know why people want to standardize things - I want it in my food-processing. But why try to standardize people? I shrink from it in my pedagogy. Pedagogy? Look it up.

{Smartypants}

Whenever a man does a thoroughly stupid thing, it is always from the noblest motives.
Oscar Wilde

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